Keeping your relationship intact during lockdown

 

Start with yourself

Acknowledge your feelings and be kind to yourself. It’s okay to feel stressed and anxious. If it helps, keep a journal of how you’re feeling and why. Let yourself off the hook. If you have failed to do something according to plan, it’s okay. You’ve got plenty of time to fix it. 

Do some daily exercise. It makes you feel more in control and releases endorphins - those feel good hormones that will help you to overcome the anxiety. 

Contact your favourite people via video calling. People need face to face contact so video calling is far more satisfying than texting or voice. It will make you feel less isolated. 

Focus on the things that you can control. Live in the here and now. 

 

Set up shared goals to help you get through the time

There’s no point in setting big goals at this time, but there is a sense of accomplishment in small wins. Set up daily goals that you can achieve. Things like clearing the garden, painting a room or planting a small vegetable garden. 

If you have children it helps to set up routines. A routine will make them feel more secure. Make sure that you also make some alone time with your partner. Consider setting up a date night. 

 

Grateful and considerate

Share the chores around the house and show your gratitude for work well done. If there are children in the home agree on the schedule for work and childcare.

If you’re working from home, try to set up a work space in separate rooms. If not, you should, at least, each have your own space to work in. Each must also respect the other’s personal space. Try to get out of the other’s way for the bulk of the day as you would in more normal times.